By Olubunmi Adebayo
*As indicated in the reflections of yesterday, we shall today be looking at how to manage ourselves when we are confronted with the reality that we have been rejected as someone’s choice of preference for another fellow.*
*As indicated yesterday, nobody likes being rejected, no human fellow.*
*Despite the great measure of grace, power and selflessness in the Life of Jesus Christ, when the reality dawned on Him that the people at His place of birth were not receptive and accommodative of his ministry and activities, the anointing upon him could not flow as usual :*
*Mark 6:[3] Is not this the carpenter, the son of Mary, the brother of James, and Joses, and of Juda, and Simon? and are not his sisters here with us? And they were offended at him.*
*[4]But Jesus said unto them, A prophet is not without honour, but in his own country, and among his own kin, and in his own house.*
*[5]And he could there do no mighty work, save that he laid his hands upon a few sick folk, and healed them.*
*Jesus ended up leaving the place and the locality entirely.*
*Depending on the situation, this type of scenario of being rejected can be painful.*
*You will therefore not be helping yourself if you deny the fact of your being rejected, whereas you are very hurt by the act of this rejection.*
*Bearing this in mind, you will likely heal up quickly if you face the reality that you are bitter about the preference of somebody else over you.*
*Part of the things you can do in this situation are listed below :*
*1) Ask for the grace (a willingness of the heart from the Lord) to overcome any ill feelings associated with this rejection you have experienced : feelings of hatred, disillusionment, discouragement, biases, anger, envy, malice, jealousy, that may be rising within you over the matter.*
*2) Expose yourself to anything that can help you clear all the burdens in your heart and pains of the mind over this rejection. This feeling must be cleared out of your mind by a consciousness within you that as human beings, we are all entitled to our choices and preferences in life, including the person who had made the choice of preference in bypassing you.*
*3) Know that when it comes to God, it is God’s prerogative to choose according to His awesome Power and Wish. If He has not chosen you, it must be for a reason. Let this reality and understanding sink into you and dwell richly in you.*
*4) Also, let it be known to you that it may not be your time to be chosen by God or by man for that thing yet. Or that there is another choice of expression coming your way different from this. Hence, try and learn useful lessons from this particular experience and move on.*
*5) Take this experience as a falling forward. The chance may be there that this opportunity is for you to see yourself as not doing too well in some areas of your life to warrant your being preferred.*
*In this case, work on yourself for an improvement that will allow for your preference in future, NOT necessarily with the same fellow though.*
*6) Please hate nobody on the account of this development. The brothers of Joseph hated Joseph because of the preference of their father for him, yet this didn’t stop God from doing what He wanted to do in his life.*
*7) Know that any ill feelings generated from your end against anyone, like anger, bitterness, will only hurt your own self the more, and not necessarily someone else. You may even start developing health issues on the account of this.*
*8) Have it behind your mind that if you keep doing things right, your own day of preference over others will certainly come.*
*9) Always remember to approach God for help at your moments of needs, including when you are rejected. And He sure will help,if you will allow Him.*
*10) You may also, if necessary, need to see a professional for counseling and guidance. This may go a long way in de-escalating your emotions and reducing your strong feelings over matter.*
*With all of the above in your mind, you will certainly ride the storm of any choice of preference that may come your way in life, and you will go on to do great things as well.*
Top of the day to you 👍
©️ Olubunmi S Adebayo.
