By Olubunmi Adebayo
*As indicated yesterday, we shall today be looking at ways a man can correct his wife without hurting her feelings or making her feel bitter or unpleasant.*
*1. EXERCISE PATIENCE.*
*The first thing in life that will test the maturity of any man for marriage is the extent to which he is ready to exercise patience with his wife. One driving reason for this is the fact that the woman is wired by God to act mostly on instincts (feelings, and ultimately on emotions), while men on the other hand is wired to act on logicality, ie, available facts.*
*These two differing dispositions often result in conflicts that only patience on the part of a man is what will guarantee a peaceful home.*
*2) DON’T THREATEN YOUR WIFE.*
*At many instances of provocation by the wife, most men result into threatening their wives. This is wrong, and quite childish.*
*On a good day, no man can threaten a woman to submission, none. If your wife is acting out of tune, don’t result into threatening her, that will not be healthy for your marriage.*
*3) TRANSPARENCY OF LIFE.*
*As much as possible, be transparent with your wife. Communicate regularly with her and sincerely too. Let me surprise you with this fact of life, when a man is lying to his wife, 80% of the times, she is aware you are lying to her, she may however keep quiet to let peace be, or so as not to humiliate you, especially before other people. There is a deep and intricate gift of knowing that God has given women.*
*Instead of fighting this gift of knowing in your wife, tap into it through transparency for the benefits of the two of you.*
*4) DON’T SHOUT ON HER.*
*Just as mentioned above in the case of threatening, don’t also shout at your wife. She is your better half and not your child, hence treat her with care and respect. Putting up an attitude of understanding on the part of the man is far better than shouting at her to get results.*
*5. LIVE IN LOVE WITH HER.*
*Your relationship with your wife should be encapsulated in love and understanding, and this must be so demonstrated. Arising from love for her is the need to appreciate her when necessary, and sometimes give her gifts to encourage her to keep doing more.*
*6.NEVER CRITICIZE YOUR WIFE IN PUBLIC SPACES.*
*The habit of criticizing your wife, especially in public spaces where friends, family members and acquaintances are is not appropriate, and could be counter productive to your interest in the immediate, or the interest of your family in the long run.*
*To be concluded tomorrow, God willing.*
Do have a great day ahead please 👍
©️ Olubunmi S Adebayo.
