By Olubunmi Adebayo
*Today, we shall be concluding our discussion on ways a man can correct his wife without hurting her feelings, or bruising her ego.*
*7) DON’T ENGAGE IN RETALIATION.*
*As much as it lies within your power, don’t engage your wife in the game of retaliation. Know it for sure : you will be tempted to retaliate. But note that it is not right to do so. If you retaliate as a man, you will only be watering down your headship in the family.*
*Always remember this, while women can become abusive in handling misunderstanding with their husbands, men can become physical in retaliation against such. This has resulted in physical fighting between the two, which you must never be allowed in your home. And one thing that will help you in this regard is making up your mind never to engage in retaliation with your wife, no matter the situation or circumstances.*
*8) NEVER TAKE HER SIMPLICITY FOR GRANTED.*
*Some men take the simplicity of their wives for granted, and over react in correcting them. By the time such men are done with this wrong approach, great harm would have been done to the relationship between the two of them, and such a wife would have been turned into what she was never.*
*9) DON’T ATTACK HER PHYSICAL APPEARANCE.*
*Well mannered men never attack the physical appearance of their wives, no matter the level of provocation or disagreement confronting them. Following after this, is that you must never insult her parents or her family. It is a disrespect of the highest order for her womanhood to be attacked or her physical appearance or her parents to be abused. If you are in the habit of handling things as stated above, she may find it very difficult to forgive you going forward. Apart from this, remember that she was having her physical appearance as it were when you fell in love with her, asking her to be your wife.*
*10) LEARN TO WALK AWAY FROM PROVOCATION.*
*Where and when your wife is indeed angry, learn to walk away from her provocations. You will save yourself from any untold behaviour which could be quite embarrassing. The essence of you trying to correct her is for things to get better, but if she wouldn’t have anything to do with your suggestions or corrections, then walk away. Learn not to meet the fire of anger with fire, or else, the two of you will be consumed.*
*11) LEAD BY EXAMPLE*
*Self – example is the best model of leadership and correction. The subject you are raising with your wife for correction may well be treated by you to serve as an example for her to see and follow. By your actions of exemplary actions, you would have taken the lead for her to follow. This will go along way to smoothen fray nerves between the two of you.*
*12) PLACE VALUE ON YOUR WIFE.*
*Your wife is an asset to your life and family, you must therefore, under every condition, place value on her. What God has joined together, let no subject matter or anger or provocation of any type put asunder.*
*You may not know it, your wife may be doing so much to steady your relationship, and could well be under some pressure too : career, domestic, health or financial. Let me mention this for example, you will both leave the house in the morning for your respective places of work, only for you as the husband to be breathing down her neck for supper in the evening after both of you had returned. I am not saying it is not her duty to cook, but please be considerate whenever things go slow. This is one of the hallmarks of real men : understanding.*
*Among others, I hope the above, when well followed, will bring joy and peace to your home and family.*
Cheers 👍
©️ Olubunmi S Adebayo.
