By Olubunmi Adebayo
*Continuation of yesterday’s Reflection on : “ways a wife can correct the husband without hurting his ego”.*
*7) DON’T GET BACK TO OLD ISSUES.*
*There are no reasons why you need to get back to old issues. Take for instance: “remember what you did before? I will never, ever forget that! Bla bla!!” Once the issues are done and resolved, it should be totally erased out of your mind… never try to reopen a grave…. Well mannered women never do that. Stick to the present issue, discuss like adults and move on.*
*8) DON’T ATTACK THE AUTHORITY OF HIS MANHOOD.*
*Don’t join the group of women saying “And you call yourself a MAN ENOUGH? REAL MAN don’t behave like this or that, you better change before I change you!” This is very wrong, don’t do this please… LADIES, such DON’T change MEN! if they want to change, they will change because of LOVE. Don’t try to be a sculptor of water. For sure results, you can’t go that way, it will not pay you.*
*9) DON’T ATTACK HIS DIGNITY. GIVE YOUR HUSBAND A BUNCH OF RESPECT!*
*This is all that matters. If you don’t have enough respect for your husband, then you are not worth his love, and the respect of his children. As a fish cherishes water, so does a man cherish his honour. Dishonour him, and your place in his heart is gone.*
*10) DO IT IN TIME OF PEACE.*
*Most WIVES do want to correct their husbands in the heat of anger, at the height of misunderstanding, when temper has already hit the roof top. That is not the best time to correct, it will yield little or no result at all. MEN are simple…they have SELECTIVE HEARING. they can only hear in the low tone of your voice, not through the bundle of anger expressions that is common with women.*
*11) GIVE A HELPING HAND.*
*Work together for good… change thrives together. Try your best to help in your most constructive way. That will make their job easy and fast. If he is fixing the broken leg of a table, hand him the things he needs (a hammer for example). Don’t just stand and watch your husband as if you are an Egyptian Pharaoh, mandating and monitoring slaves at work, and ready to give a whip whenever any of them make mistakes.*
*12) PLACE VALUE ON YOUR HUSBAND :*
*Husbands most of the time are doing a great job,(even when he is thinking through issues). Appreciate yours and support him to be a better husband to you, and a good father to your children.*
*THE REAL EMPOWERED WOMAN IS THE ONE WHO KNOWS HOW TO RESPECT HER MAN.*
*IF YOU EXPECT YOUR HUSBAND TO BE A RESPECTABLE KING IN YOUR PALACE, THEN YOU SHOULD FIRST CREATE A PEACEFUL PALACE FOR HIM.*
*_Tomorrow, God willing, we shall be looking at some ways a man can correct his wife without hurting her feelings too_.*
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