By Olusola Adeyegbe
Laws change. Cultures shift. What one generation outlaws, the next celebrates. But the Laws of Nature moves to a different rhythm entirely, unhurried, unbothered by opinion polls or parliamentary majorities. It simply is. And it is against that adamantine, quieter standard that the question of same-sex intimacy deserves to be honestly examined.
I reflected on this question in an earlier essay titled Is Homosexuality a Natural Phenomenon?, published in March 2011, which you can read here: https://samueli.blogspot.com/2011/03/is-homosexuality-natural-phenomenon.html. I return to it now with fresh eyes, a quieter tone, and a deeper angle.
Many countries have legalized same-sex relationships. Some churches have opened their doors to same-sex unions. And in the court of public opinion, particularly in the West, the matter is increasingly treated as closed. But legality has never been a reliable compass for morality or naturalness. Slavery was once legal. So was colonialism. The law reflects the consciousness of the moment, not the permanence of truth.
Human beings are endowed with free will. This is not a small gift. It is the very engine of growth, responsibility, and spiritual development. We must therefore be careful never to reduce any person to their choices, nor to treat difference with contempt. Discrimination, cruelty, and exclusion are on their own violations of a higher law. Every human being carries dignity that must be honored.
And yet, free will does not suspend the Laws of Nature. It never has. Nature operates by principles that are not negotiated by legislation or popular sentiment. The design of the human body, the complementarity of male and female, the architecture of reproduction, the energies that govern attraction at their deepest level: these speak a language that is older than any parliament.
The more honest conversation is not whether same-sex intimacy should be criminalized, because persecution solves nothing and teaches less. The more useful question is one that each person must bring to their own conscience quietly and courageously: am I acting out of genuine inner conviction or am I simply surrendering to willful stubbornness, satisfying a passing whim, and refusing to look deeper? These are not comfortable questions. But they are necessary ones.
There is also a deeper dimension worth considering. Each soul, on setting out on its journey of spiritual maturation, made a foundational choice, a choice of sex that reflected the nature of its inner activity. That choice remains relevant across earthlives. To be unfaithful to it, persistently and willfully, is not without consequence. Those who stray too far from that original orientation risk finding themselves, in later incarnations, clothed in bodies that do not reflect who they originally chose to be. The repercussions of such distortion are not merely abstract. They manifest as a deep inner restlessness and confusion, a dissonance between the outer form and the inner self. It is precisely this condition that leads many to declare, with genuine anguish, that though they are outwardly one sex, they feel inwardly that they belong to another. That cry deserves compassion, not ridicule. But it also deserves honesty. What such a person is encountering is not a new identity to be celebrated but a distortion accumulated over time, one that calls not for entrenchment but for sober reflection. The way forward is not to deepen the confusion by acting it out, but to pause, look inward with courage, and resolve to return to faithfulness, to stay true to what one originally and freely chose to be. Faithfulness, then, is not merely a social or moral virtue. It is a spiritual safeguard. It protects the integrity of the soul’s journey and keeps one aligned with the path chosen at the very beginning. That kind of faithfulness, quiet, inner, and self-directed, is worth more than any law a parliament can pass.
Natural law asks something demanding of every person regardless of orientation or identity. It asks us to look inward, to examine the forces that shape our desires, and to ask whether we are growing toward our highest nature or drifting away from it. That is a question for every human conscience, not just some.
We are free. But freedom exercised without wisdom becomes its own kind of bondage. The invitation, then, is not to judge one another. It is to reflect, with honesty and humility, on the laws that govern all of us equally, and to let our choices reflect that we wish only to act in accordance with them.
