Famous Nigerian dance queen Kafayat Oluwatoyin, better known as Kaffy, has revealed she was celibate for three years in her marriage.
The 41-year-old dancer made this statement in an interview with media personality Chude Jideonwo.
Kaffy married Joseph Ameh, an ex-drummer in PSquare’s music band, on June 2, 2012.
The Lagos State-born dancer claimed her husband cheated on her with her best friend, and she started healing when she stopped sleeping with him.
“Let me tell you, when I started healing, I stopped sleeping with my husband. I was celibate in my marriage for three years before getting a divorce.”
According to her, she understood that marriage was an alignment of assignment.
“There are different red flags that we women in love are blinded by,” the dancer noted.
“I was thinking at the beginning that I have found someone else that would make me happy. That’s the most selfish thinking that any human being can have for another human being,” she added.
Their union was blessed with two children not until the dancer announced their divorce on Instagram in January 2022.
Lessons learnt
Although the couple is successful in their own right, Kaffy said the divorce gave both of them a chance to grow.
Kaffy said that she doesn’t blame herself or her husband for the divorce after nine years.
According to her, the divorce would help them become better and more incredible people, and it would help them achieve their assignment, which they believed was given to them.
“That if I love him, I need to let him go, he needs to go out there and become, he needs to find out how he will become, and I will be so happy. It will feel like the whole nine years was not for nothing because when you love someone, you would want to see the best of them,” Kaffy said as she broke into tears.
Childhood experiences
According to the muti-award winning dancer, she came from a family where domestic violence was the order of the day.
Kaffy said that she had the most traumatic childhood, as her parents were in the habit of attacking each other with knives.
Speaking about the domestic violence in her parent’s marriage, she noted that her parents used sharp objects like knives and forks when they were fighting.
“All the knives, all the forks, anything that can break and poke, or insect, even spoons we hide spoons,” she said as she described her childhood experiences with her parents.
Kaffy said that her parent’s divorce led her to single parenthood.
“If they probably took better decisions, they wouldn’t be dead,” Kaffy said.
Kaffy announced her father’s death in September 2021.
Despite her childhood and recent experiences, Kaffy remains committed to fulfilling her aspirations.
She is a choreographer, dance instructor, fitness coach and the founder of Imagneto Dance Company.
In 2006, Kaffy led her dance group to break the Guinness Book of Record for “Longest Dance Party” after dancing for 55 hours and 40 minutes.
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