By Bunmi Adebayo
There is an error common to most young people as they grow up in life : a strong desire to cut off from their parents on the account of what they perceived as mistreatment in the hands of such parents.
Such a mood starts from the teenage stage of life.
The question we should ask people with such feelings is that “are they sincerely sure they could have come this far in life without their parents standing their ground concerning them?”
The mistake of this type of youth is that they focus on the human weaknesses of their parents and underplay the priceless principles, virtues,values, ethics and norms under which they were raised.
Such children lap on what they observed in their parents and go ahead to disdain them.
The bone of contention of some of these children is that they were never loved by their parents as xyz sibling in the family.
Some felt their parents didn’t spend enough money on them,rather on something else.
Some felt their parents never had enough time for them like xyz parents had for their own children.
Some carry grudges because of certain comments made or views expressed about them which they felt was not quite commendable.
Be careful how you condemn your parents. Also be careful how you fight them. This is because you may end up fighting against yourself.
Note this about life : you do not have the full picture of the circumstances under which your parents operated : you couldn’t have seen all the whole picture. So, you must therefore be careful in judging them.
Some of them as at the time of raising you, _were up against the toughest battles of their lives_ : you won’t know this.
*Another thing you must know and realize is that the opportunity of life will also beckon on you to father or mother your own children, then you will know what is involved.
The truth is, if you focus on things you do not like in your parents, you will likely find such. This is because they are not perfect as human beings, (no human is perfect you know). But be satisfied with the fact that they did their best for you. If you however don’t like the best they have done, then run to God to complete the rest. Parents are caretakers on behalf of God you know. And always remember that some never had parents, and still made it in life.
Good day to you.
