By Olusola Faboya
The seemingly apt, but at the same time, a very instructive statement, that… “Marriages are made in Heaven”, is sometimes uttered and heard in the human society. And they come from intense and gravely challenging experiences, that people have gone through, most times very sour and bitter. But, in the attendant recognitions, accompanying those experiences, vital lessons presumably have had to be gained, in the process! Those recognitions and lessons, in retrospect, have profoundly impacted people’s intuition…for them to come to the “conclusion”…that Marriages in real terms, could only be made in heaven! Disappointments, resignations, frustrations, despondency and hypocrisy…often accompany the uttering of this statement. It has even been wisely proclaimed that, ironically, those that are furthest removed from Heaven, are also heard to hypocritically utter, this very loaded statement!
It can be established, in all honesty, that the sacred institution of Marriage, is one institution that mankind have recklessly debased and ridiculed its fundamental concept, because of what ill-informed and ill-advised human creatures have regretfully, made of it! Ask couples that are intending to marry…what the institution of marriage says, about the Creative Will; from whence, the dispensation of marriage originates; the prime obligations that devolve unconditionally, on those intending to be bonded in marriage; what the specific goals of the act of marriage are, in spiritual terms… the grinning emptiness and utter lack of knowledge and understanding, would be clearly exposed, in their responses! But how do you adopt, an undiscerning and overtly adventurous approach, to a serious endeavour, that you really know next to nothing about? This is where the tragedy of the whole matter,becomes quite evident. With most marriages…the decision is akin to…fools and simpletons rushing in, where Angels fear to tread…!
If there is an inter-personal experience, that can decisively make or mar human life…it is the success or otherwise, of the marital experience!
It we go on to ask people generally and intending couples what, convincingly, they know of that “Heaven”…where fulfilled marriages are supposed to have been made, the response again, would be largely uncertain, dodgy and literally foggy! Most people on earth, do perceive heaven…as some glorious place behind-the-clouds; where a Creator (and angels) is supposed to inhabit, in sovereignty… and Dominion. And of course, the assumed notion is that anything coming from Heaven, must have received the blessing and benediction of the perfect and wise Creator, before being proffered to human creatures, down below!
It may sound rather impracticable and uncharitable to say that, given the unmitigated disaster that humans have made of the marriage-institution, we men and women of these times, should perhaps keep our distance, from this Sacred Institution…until such a time, when the tone of morality, ethical sensitivity and well informed spirituality, would have improved substantially, on the face of this depraved and sunken Earth! However, it would still be desirable and healthy to look at the brighter side of things. As earlier implied in this presentation, a failed marriage often succeeds, in making repulsive monsters and beasts, of human beings! In the settings of marriage these times, domestic violence, cold cruelty, insensitivity, schemes of vengeance and brutality do thrive, to such extent that one wonders, when human beings would really be amenable to the dictates of true-love, temperance, civility, restrained behavior… and Purity.
The sacred Act of Marriage, was not conceived in the human mind, in the first place! In other words, the starting point of its conception, was NOT the human society on Earth! The human creature, is permitted to experience it as an institution from out of the glorious Outworkings of the Creative Will! Its peculiar direction-of-approach, as a blessed feature, of the Outworkings of the Creative Will, towards human creatures, is from ABOVE… downwards! The human creature will therefore be doing himself a whole lot of good, if he can engender the honest quest for pertinent Knowledge in this connection, so that thoughtless forays into marriage, will not prove to be a big and costly retrogressive gamble!
Yes… Marriages, are made in Heaven! It is an irrefutable statement of fact, for someone who has self-motivated himself/herself, and acquired the knowledge to know, the strict lawfulness that beautifully circumscribes the evolution of the male and female species in Creation. The Adam and Eve allegorical narrative, does not exhaustively proffer this knowledge, as useful and instructive, as that allegorical account was. The female and male human creatures that we see everyday, are in reality to be seen in their actual Origin (outside and Above the earth) as “split-species” from… an erstwhile composite “WHOLE”! And as “split-species” they are, unavoidably, attracted and drawn to each other, in all naturalness, in the human communal-setting on Earth!
The specific context, in which to contemplate this, is in the providential Omniscience in the Creative Will, which in sacred wisdom had conceived the marriage institution, as it were, to provide a healthy and uplifting setting, for the latter coming-together, of the male and female split-pecies. The beautiful details about the supernal wisdom, which the institution of Marriage bespeaks, cannot be exhaustively explained here, for reason of space.
In view of the foregoing….it stands to reason that… if the Providential Outworkings of the Creative Will, had benevolently supported the evolution of the split-species (male and female sexes) and conditioned their mutual attraction this far…any “coming-together” on Earth, such as in formal marital union and bonding, cannot be contracted, without “upbuilding contributions” and edifying input from… HEAVEN… where we all know that the Creative Will situates! Unseen Helpers, abound around the human creatures, subsisting on Earth, guiding their lawful aspirations, and leading them to overtly beneficial ends.
Heaven…is Above! And outside the low-lying Earth, where edifying Help; faithful Guidance; guiding Wisdom and uplifting Love, permanently reside! In other words, Heaven comes forth as a spiritual Observatory, as it were, that commands widely-spanning and pervasive overview, as far as the different shades of human experiencing on Earth are concerned! All the spiritually legitimate needs of man on earth, are taken up in resonance, for direct guidance, when the genuine and honest longing of human creatures…ring-a bell there! Fervent prayers on other diverse needs of man, also resonate towards the Throne-of-GRACE!
One of the pre-conditions for a Marriage to be contracted in Heaven, is for whoever (man or woman) longs and prays to contract such, to single-mindedly work towards it in purity…to earn the enabling grace! TO GIVE IS TO RECEIVE. This Grace is not a “honorary conferment” that simply falls on one’s laps! The only road that exists, to a marriage that is made in Heaven…is to consciously and consistently abide by the Laws of The Creative Will. So that the Heavens, can really have a “hand” in the endeavour. “Most importantly, a couple who would have had their marriage made in Heaven…MUST BE FITTINGLY COMPLEMENTARY, in their nature, predisposition and being! This is a very fundamental pre-condition. It is only from such complementary unions and bonding… that Harmony, the resounding Harmony, which immensely benefits the Whole-of-Creation, in diverse ways, can come from. The heavenly-functionaries, put in place by the Creative Will, to gladly guide mankind, from the aforementioned spiritual “Observatory”, can accurately identify those that carry complementing-qualities within…and if, and when, they long in purity, for marital experience, in the course of their lives, they are faithful guided and led…to literally meet each other! IT IS A MOST DECISIVE HOUR AND MOMENT… And when this happens, the Hosts of Heaven, do rejoice exultantly!
In a spiritually disconnected world, the aforementioned picture being proffered here, will certainly be difficult to conceptualise, because of curious beliefs and notions, that people have firmly held, in their respective religions circles! BUT THIS DOES NOT ALTER IN THE SLIGHTEST DEGREE…THE PICTURE OF REAL LIFE, THAT IS, BEING PORTRAYED HERE!
What was ordained in the Outworkings of the Creative Will, is for human creatures (as split-species) on earth, in the course of their maturing development, to strive for virtues and live such wholesomely pure lives…that they can be faithfully led, by higher guidance, to contract marriages that are founded and made, in Heaven! Rightly understood, this gracious dispensation of the ALMIGHTY CREATOR, confirms unmistakably who…HE IS, IN HIS UNAPPROACHABLE MIGHT, HIS OMNISCIENCE AND UNALTERABLE GOODNESS.
When human creatures went defiantly prodigal, at a point in their maturing development, the collateral damage that occurred concomitantly, was unimaginably huge. The myriads of Blessings…yet to be unearthed for mankind, was justifiably held up, because the right-soil, for the anchorage of such Blessings, had not been conditioned by erring mankind! One of such withheld blessings… is the experiencing on Earth…of Marriages… made in Heaven!
Harmony, it was revealed… is a very STRICT condition for Creation. The wholesome setting of spiritually grounded Marriage, was ordained to provide an anchorage for Harmony, which was ordained to be directly supportive of life, just like Oxygen is! Without oxygen, living entities cannot thrive and survive on earth. Without sustained and abiding harmony, in the human community on earth, there would unavoidably come about… a sustained impoverishment of the human soul. This will make it impossible, to condition an enabling ambience, for unimpeded growth, flowering and timely fruition of the innate virtues, that human creatures are supposed to engender, nurture and foster! The consistent nurturing and fostering of those Virtues will condition the strengthening of the Humanity…in Man.
Mankind have made an odious failure of the institution of marriage, because they would not bring up the requisite spiritual qualities that are needed to make marriage a spiritually fulfilling experience, as has been the case, for a very long time now. At whose doorstep, should the blame for this failure be laid? Mankind’s!
In the wholesome Perfection, that will always attend the glorious outworkings of the Creative Will, the Goodness and infinite Love of the Creator had put inplace, before man ever became conscious of it…EVERYTHING NEEDED TO ATTAIN TRUE HUMANITY! AND THUS PEACE! GOODWILL TO ALL MEN, WILL ALSO NOT BE LACKING!
Olusola Faboya can be reached at:
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